Self-Love & Self-Care – What’s The Difference?

Back in February I wrote about taking the time to give yourself a little bit of self-love and understand that  it’s not self-centred or selfish. It’s simply about spending the time to care for ourselves and being aware of the fact that we all need time to recharge. In honesty, it’s what has been getting me through my daily stress and tiredness.

Oxford Dictionaries defines self-love ‘as ‘the practice of taking action to preserve or improve one’s own health’. In other words, it making sure you spend the time to replenish yourself and renew your energy. It’s being self aware that you need to spare the time for yourself to grow and develop. This could be as simple as reading a book, going for a walk, having a massage or turning that episode on Netflix off and getting that early nights sleep you need.

Self-love on the other hand is a ‘regard for one’s own well-being and happiness’ (oxford dictionaries).  It is about being accepting towards yourself, physically and emotionally. Finding confidence in yourself, feel better about yourself and accepting your flaws. Essentially it is about always focusing on the positive and keeping those inner voices optimistic. Just a few ways to fulfil this could be to surround yourself with inspiring, positive people or promote positive self talk by leaving inspirational quotes or goals on your bathroom mirror or on your steering wheel!

Self-love means loving yourself unconditionally, whereas self-care is about feeling good in your skin.

Whilst both may cross paths, both are essential to fulfilling a healthy, balanced and positive relationship with yourself. We’ve all been there when we’re so exhausted and even showering before bed feels like too much effort. Enforcing these small practices into your daily routine will help you refocus, slow down your life a little and improve your self-esteem.

Taking this into account I have started making an effort to give myself the time to rejuvenate. I’ve been attending Pilate classes and picking up a book at night before bed instead of staring at my phone screen. Something wonderful about this experience it that it gives you the opportunity to discover what makes you happy, but remember not everyone will find the same happiness and peace in the same source. I know lounging in a boiling bubbly bath doesn’t relax me the same way it comforts my boyfriend!

And yes, we don’t have all the time in the world to be indulging ourselves every single day. So find what works best for you. Maybe an entire night of pampering suits your routine, whereas maybe you’re like me and like to give yourself little luxuries here and there, every other day.

Just remember, it’s about spending time with yourself and loving yourself for who you are.

Love, AR

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